Let-Downs On Dating & Job Hunting

Well I haven't started dating yet don't think I am as ready as I thought I was to go out into the world and give my heart to someone else, as it is still hurting. I know its been 2-months but guess what I am saying is, if I am still counting how long I have been hurting from my last break-up then guess I'm not ready to date yet, because I still must be hurting. I want to get on with my life but for some reason can't seem to just do it and move on, I thought if I got out in the work force in a different job things would be better and I would start hanging with other people in return meet men that I would like to date.

Well need-less to say haven't done any of that, thought I had this one job in the bag, in mangment, as they contacted me several times to come back in and talk to them. Then yesterday they offered me a lesser pay position then what I had applied for and it depressed me it must of showed because they turned around not even 30-min. Later called me on my answering Mach. At home and left a message saying they miss-under stood the main office and they didn't have the position they offered me open but would keep my name on file if something else came open. Well needless to say this was like a big slap in the face to me I felt as soon as I said how old I really was and I wasn't sure if I could lift or move stoves and ref. They didn't need me....

Sucks and hurts, well and I cried, worse part is I live in a right to work state and you can lose a job... I found out from (Job-Service) just because you put on the wrong lip-stick if your boss don't like it he don't have to say why he let you go!! It is really scary out there anymore looking for a job and even if you have one you could lose it in a blink of an eye or funding cut, like was what happen to my last job. So just trying to lick my wounds and get back to where I was, so that maybe I will find someone that wants to hire me.

Been thinking about going back to school, but not sure if I can afford to just take that kind of time off to find a better job. But then again if I don't do it my chances anymore it seems the older I get of finding a job will become slim to none. Well I think I am going to take a week or so off from looking and try and figure out what I need to do and if I can do something different....Wish me Luck!!

Learning To Like Me Again

" Hi Just dropping in, to let everyone know I am still doing my blog just taking some time off to do some things I need to do for myself and relax a bit. Been doing a lot of soul searching within myself these last few months since I became a single women again, trying to figure out what happen with my last lover as to not repeat it again with my next..

And what I have found out as a women is that we tend to over look a lot of things men do or make excuse, so as we don't have to be alone. I know a lot of you may say ...Oh I would never do something like that, because I like who I am more then I like the man I'm dating. Not true I feel then you have not met that one man that can make you do or say things that you look back on and say...Where the hell was my head and what was I thinking ????

Think about it and be honest is what I found I had to do, because I looked back and thought? How did I let myself get to this point in my life? Well it didn't happen over night it was a slow process over time that happen so slow that I didn't even see myself changing till I was in over my head and didn't like who I had become...But then came the next phase in this strange thing I did to myself in the name of love!! I thought I could stop it and change back and no one would know or get hurt! WRONG!!

Don't work like that...Wish it did, but it don't. Because then all the fighting starts because your mate likes usually who you've become even if you don't! Then that's when it happens you suddenly figure it out, you were so busy trying to show the man you are with that you love then and want to be a part of their life you become them, over-night it seems like and you didn't even see it till you step back! Then by that time it has become to late ...Least it was for me, the stakes just kept getting higher the move I tried to change back to who I was the move we fought and he wanted me to change more to the things he liked and wanted, and I was confused because I didn't want to lose him but I didn't want to lose who I was also.

So That day we all wish we never had to have happened, and I and my lover parted ways..I was sad, cried licked my wounds and felt sorry for myself. But I had no one to blame but me, because I allowed it to get to the point it did and I gave control of me away to someone else all in the name of love. Which is not really love if you think about it, because I should of and have now learned you need to love yourself first and never let go of it. Then only with this part of your life in control then you will be able to let someone else in to love them too!!

Any way I have done a lot of looking at myself and learning to take better control of who I am and what I want in life, and I need to keep reminding myself I come before anyone else does always, and never ever ! Feel I should put my feelings on the back burner, for anyone or any man, unless I am wanting to be where I was a few months ago again.

I'm ready now I think to start looking to date again, but being very careful and picky about who I go out with because I need to take care of me first. And let those I date know, that I come before we always if they choose to date me!!

I Wasn't Cheating I Was Sleep -Walking

sleepdisorder;"Australia - A woman seduced and had sex with strangers while she slept and later had no recollection of her infidelities due to a sleeping disorder. The middle-aged woman had no idea that she was sneaking from her house at night in search of sex with random strangers until her partner awoke, discovered she was missing from the bedroom, and found her having sex with another man. Her partner was already aware that she was a sleep walker and also had been confounded by condoms he found strewn around the house. "It is very complex, elaborated motor behavior during sleep, people are often stunned and overwhelmed when they're told what they've been doing."The partners and doctors of people suffering from the disorder often do not believe the acts were committed while they slept,"It's very stressful both for them, for their partner or for their relationship," Scientific Sleep Doctor's say. "It also promotes an intense sense of embarrassment on their part, their partner's behalf and this inhibits people coming forward to seek potentially helpful professional intervention.I guess I don't really buy this one!! But if anyone can prove me wrong and make me believe it..I'm game! But then again ? Sometimes I wish I could just sleep walk in to some sexy guy's bed and have some fun and then leave and pretend I don't remember crawling in his bed if I get caught. But remember what I did while I was there in my mind, as long as it was some good Loving...lol...( I know Shame on me!!...Can't help myself just a nasty women)"

Women Want A Better Sex-Life

Testosterone Patch;" (TTP) therapy is well tolerated and significantly increases sexual activity and desire while decreasing personal distress in women with hypoactive sexual desire disorder, according to the results. HSDD is a medical condition for women that is specifically defined as decreased desire associated with personal distress. Results at 24 weeks showed that TTP therapy significantly increased the frequency of "totally satisfying" sexual episodes compared with placebo. TTP therapy was well tolerated. "The only adverse events we saw that were slightly more likely in testosterone-treated women were slight increases in acne and facial hair," Dr. Shifren noted, adding, "These were very mild.
"We saw statistically significant improvement in our primary end point for the study, which was the amount of totally satisfying sexual activity at 24 weeks, in testosterone-treated women as compared to placebo-treated women," said Dr. Shifren. "It's really a very exciting study; it's truly the first time that transdermal testosterone has been shown to significantly increase sexual function in women in a large controlled trial," Dr. Shifren pointed out. "The interesting thing...Was that everything became significant early; the arousal, the return of desire, the number of satisfactory sexual encounters that they had, and the decrease in distress could all be seen at four weeks, and this really amazed me, an increase in self-image as well," Dr. Nachtigall said. Noted the clinical advantages of being able to tell patients to expect improvements in four weeks that will peak soon after and then remain stable over a six-month period. "This is a whole change in lifestyle," she pointed out. "I think four weeks is excellent, anticipates U.S. Food and Drug Administration approval of TTP therapy for women with HSDD. "Once it's approved, it will be a very useful, "There's a lot more distress over decreased libido than we knew.Okay Ladies it's time for us to have some fun too!! So we all need to go see our doctors and get something to make what men do fun for us too...Each and everything and then some. Okay even if your one of those few ladies who says you don't have a problem in this dept., well maybe this will help a girlfriend you know....Its worth a try...Think I'll check into it as I just entered the dating field again....LOL"

Plastic Surgery In Fashion For Pets

MSNBC:" Well, get ready for a fresh dose of reality: those going under the knife to be nipped and tucked are not people but pets. “Pets are no longer considered property, but family members," says Dr. Alan Schulman, a board-certified orthopedic veterinary surgeon who performs plastic surgery and also sees general practice cases at the Animal Medical Center of Southern California in Los Angeles. "With the evolution of this emotional bond, people with a discretionary income are taking advantage of technology and veterinary expertise to give their animals medically indicated reconstructive surgery resulting in a better quality of life.

Schulman sees many pets belonging to celebrities and says he gets his fair share of requests to perform unnecessary cosmetic procedures, reconstructive procedures that amount to an eyelift, full facelift, rhinoplasty or abdominoplasty. The costs are about $1,000 per procedure and the pet is usually hospitalized overnight in order to be properly monitored after anesthesia. The most common are skin-fold problems, particularly around the eyes, lips, tail and vaginal area, nose jobs and chin lifts. Neuticles(animal-balls) are testicular implants designed to give neutered pets a more "masculine," unneutered look.

To date, about 148,000 implants have been fitted worldwide. The recipients are mainly dogs, but Miller now has three implants available that range in softness and size to fit cats as well as horses and bulls. Prices range from $79 to $400 a pair. “The implants are FDA approved and are inserted at the time of neutering. It’s like changing a light bulb; it takes less than three minutes," says Miller. Veterinarians usually charge around $60 in addition to the neutering operation....Now this one is just plain dumb to me, come-on I had our male dog fixed many years ago when he was just 6-months old. I don't think he even knows that he ever had them, and as for hmasculinitytiy I don't feel it has ever effected him in this area he isn't afraid to thump any dog that wants to take him on, if any thing I wish I could mellow this one he's 12-years old. And as for giving my dog a face lift...I've got better things to do with my money!!"

Lutheran Minister claims There's No God Or After-life

sfgate;" The Danish government upheld the clerical suspension of a Lutheran minister who proclaimed last year that there was no God or afterlife, and he now could be fired or fined for declaring his beliefs in the pulpit. The government suspended the Rev. Thorkild Grosboell, pastor his unconventional beliefs at his church. Grosboell "had damaged the state (Evangelical Lutheran) Church ... And had not shown loyalty to the state Church." Grosboell has been under strict supervision since he first was suspended after a interview in which he said "there is no heavenly God, there is no eternal life, there is no resurrection." But in a sermon, Grosboell said that "God had abdicated in favor of his son, hence in our favor. Therefore there is no longer a heavenly guarantee or an interfering might, there is only the godly kingdom (on earth) that is achieved by us and between us. So if it fails, there is nothing...I don't know about others but when you have a man of the cloth who don't believe in what he teaches then, it really makes you wonder what's true and what's not?"

How Long Will I Live?

World News:" If you don't want to know when you'll die, DON'T read this story. The lifeline on the palm of your hand really does tell how long you'll live, says a new government study. All you have to do is measure it with a ruler and then perform simple arithmetic that will reveal the precise age at which you will die with a margin of error so small that researchers call it statistically insignificant, says Dr. Franklin Howell, National Institutes of Health, in Bethesda, Md. What we have found is that the lifeline is, in fact, an extraordinarily precise measuring stick that accurately predicts the number of years a person will live. It's amazingly accurate. We never expected it. Howell and his team measured the lifelines and then tracked the lives of 200 men and women ages 67 to 92 in the study that began in 1992 and didn't end until last June. During that period, 176 of the participants died from a variety of illnesses and accidents, including cancer, heart disease, strokes, and, in two cases, attacks by a burglar and, oddly enough, a rabid squirrel. Computer modeling indicated a distinct relationship between the length of their lifeline and their age at death that, Howell says, proved to be accurate with a margin of error of just one year. But you don't need a computer to figure out how long you're going to live. According to Howell, any adult armed with paper and pencil can do the math and find out the age at which he or she will die. Here's how: Measure the lifeline on your dominant hand left if you're left-handed, right if you're right-handed and then convert its length to eighths of inches. For example, if your line is 4 inches long, its length in eighths of inches will be 4 x 8 = 32. If your line is 43/8 inches, its length in eighths of inches will be 4 x 8 = 32 + 3 = 35. This is your "Lifeline Number." Tip: Because your lifeline is curved, for pinpoint accuracy, lay a string over it, and then stretch the string out on a table and measure it with a ruler. Multiply your Lifeline Number by 2. If your Lifeline Number is 32, the math looks like this: 32 x 2 = 64. The product 64 is your "Lifeline Root Number." If you are a woman, add 14 to your Lifeline Root Number. If you are a man, add 10 to your Lifeline Root Number. If your Lifeline Root Number is 64, the math looks like this: 64 + 14 = 78 for a woman; 64 + 10 = 74 for a man. Give or take one year, this is the age at which you will die barring a freak accident. Once you know how long you're going to live, you can plan accordingly, says Howell....Well I did this and it says I will live to be at least 80-years old before I die, so that means I have only 30 -years left to do all the things I want to do. Like find that perfect man for me in every dept.(lol) And make my kids learn how to give me money instead of me always handing out the $$ to them!!"

Sex Toys More Common with Women

Relationships;"Nearly half of adult women currently use sex toys or have tried them in the past, research shows. And women in relationships are even more likely to use them.

The report comes from Chicago's Berman Center. Directed by sex therapist Laura Berman, LCSW, PhD, the center focuses on women's sexual health and menopause.

The online study, funded by an unrestricted educational grant from drugstore.com, was conducted by Knowledge Networks for the Berman Center. The results were presented at the Women's Sexual Health State-of the-Art Series conference in Chicago.

A random sample of almost 2,600 women aged 18 to 60 were invited to participate in the survey. About 1,600 agreed to complete the survey, answering questions about their relationship status and use of sex toys.

According to the survey:


Forty-four percent said they currently use a sex toy or had done so in the past. The most commonly used sex toy was a vibrator.
Young women aged 25-34 were the most likely to have ever used a sex toy, with 51% of participants in that age group reporting current or past sex toy use.
Women aged 55-60 were just as likely to have tried a sex toy at some point in their lives. However, they were half as likely as younger women to currently use sex toys.

Most current or past sex toy users were in relationships and said they did not view the devices as a substitute for a partner.


Of unmarried women living with their partners, 43% said they currently used sex toys, and 17% said they had used them in the past.
Among women in relationships who were not living with their partners, 35% said they currently used sex toys, and 21% said they had done so in the past.

Sex Toys Less Common Among Singles

Sex toy use was less common among women not in relationships. Twenty-two percent of single women said they were current sex toy users; 12% said they had used sex toys in the past.

The use of sex toys was most popular among white women and women with some college education.


Thirty-four percent of white women said they currently used sex toys, compared with 22% of black participants, 19% of Hispanics, and 8% of "other" races.
Thirty-seven percent of women with some college education (but not a degree) were current sex toy users, compared with 26% of women with a college degree and 29% of high school graduates with no college education.

Sex Toys no Substitute for Real Thing

Overall, women had a "neutral-to-positive" outlook on sex toy use.

After controlling for demographic variables, "current sex toy users, whether or not in a steady healthy relationship, were significantly more likely to report a higher level of desire and interest for sex and less pain during and following intercourse," says the report.

"However, current and former users who were not in steady healthy relationships were still less satisfied with their overall sexual life than their counterparts."

Most sex toy users (about 90%) said they were open about it with their partners. Almost two-thirds of women said their partners were supportive of their sex toy use."

Wife poison's - Husband

" The District Attorney was cross-examining the murderess-wife on the witness stand. And so after you had poisoned the coffee and your husband sat at the breakfast table par-taking of the fatal dosage, didn't you feel any qualms? Didn't you feel the slightest pity for him knowing that he was about to die and was wholly unconscious of it?

Yes, she answered. Come to think of it...there was just a moment when I sort of felt sorry for him. And, when was that?......When he asked for the second cup....Okay I know this is a bit morbid, but it made me smile, come-on now no one can't tell me we all haven't had days like this when our other half just plain drove us nuts!!"

What's in your food?

weird news:"The Australian Police Journal reported that an elderly woman had already used about half of the powder in a custard packet when she discovered an object that appeared to be a large dead cockroach. However, when she brought it to the Health Department, food analysts determined it to be a dried-up human finger. The following investigation revealed that a factory worker had lost two fingers in a machine with rotating blades. One finger had been found. The other had made its way into the custard packet the woman had bought....Now this is just plain gross"

Rise in ADHD/ADD

MSNBC:"I have a child with these problems, doctors and schools have rode my back for years wanting him to be on Ritain since he was 5-years old. Guess my problem with this report is I don't really remember him watching that much TV, I do remember he was born early with some health problems and I feel this had alot to do with why he is the way he is. I know alot of people say that children will grow out of this problem with age, but I dis-agree. I feel that some just learn how to live with it as part of their life, but then again what about these adults that suddenly find out they have this problem? And for years growing up they were never treated, then they start taking this drug? Guess the jury is still out on that one huh?"

"Researchers point fingers at TV, genetics, overdiagnosis Some scientists say watching TV could lead to an increased risk for ADHD, while others argue that genetics and other factors play a bigger role in the development of the disorder.
When most of today's parents were growing up, the common wisdom about television viewing was not to sit too close to the screen or you’d go blind. There was relatively little in the way of children’s programming: Sesame Street, which turned 35 this year, was in its infancy and there were a few cartoons, as well as Captain Kangaroo, Mr. Rogers and Romper Room.

How times have changed. In the years since then, children’s programming has exploded. Now whole networks are devoted to young viewers.

And, interestingly enough, something else has exploded: Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, or ADHD, a behavior condition that now affects from 4 percent to 12 percent of U.S. children. ADHD is characterized by the inability to focus, listen, or complete tasks and schoolwork. Many children are medicated to control the condition.

When it comes to TV, says Dr. Dimitri Christakis, a pediatric researcher at Children’s Hospital and Regional Medical Center in Seattle, concerns over eyesight should be the least of parents' concerns. Instead, he contends that ADHD and the onslaught of children’s programming, along with DVD players and portable TVs that make viewing possible anywhere anytime, may very well be linked.

Study finds increased risk from TV, Christakis is the lead author of a study published in the journal Pediatrics in April that suggests TV viewing in very young children contributes to attention problems later in life. “The study revealed that each hour of television watched per day at ages 1 through 3 increases the risk of attention problems by almost 10 percent at age 7,” says Christakis.The study attempted to control for attributes of the home environment, such as cognitive stimulation and emotional support, but a key factor was left out: the content of the programs children watched. Christakis says this aspect should be studied in more detail at some point, but he maintains that it’s not the message of the program that’s likely the culprit, it’s the visual tactics used.

Christakis and others in the field, such as Jane Healy, an education psychologist in Vail, Colo., and author of "Your Child’s Growing Mind: Brain Development and Learning from Birth to Adolescence," believe common programming tactics designed to capture a child’s attention can have a deleterious affect on brain chemistry.

Healy says overstimulation from rapid scene changes and other programming tactics may throw off the balance of the body's catecholamine system, which is responsible for carrying communications between nerves.

“It has to do with neurotransmitters in the catecholamine system, dopamine and norepinephrine,” she adds.

Real life becomes slow and boring, Children’s programmers use a technique called the “orienting reflex," known as OR, to capture and keep a child’s attention. OR works in this way: If we see or hear something the brain doesn’t recognize as the correct sequence or a typical life event, such as a dancing alphabet or quick zooms and pans, we focus on it until the brain recognizes that it doesn’t pose a threat. The problem with watching too many programs that rely on OR is that real life becomes slow and boring by comparison.

“We think that with continued exposure to high intensity, unrealistic action, you’re conditioning the mind to expect that level of input,” Christakis explains. When the child doesn’t get the fast-paced input that television provides, he or she becomes bored and inattentive.

“It used to be that as educators we talked about the 'two-minute mind,'" says Healy. "Now it’s the 30-second mind." Of course, having an extremely short attention span makes listening, problem solving and learning to read difficult.

Genetics may play key role, While the implications of Christakis’s study are intriguing, not to mention frightening to all those decent parents who consider it a good day when their children sit contently watching Sesame Street and perhaps even a Baby Einstein chaser, they may also be a bit sensationalistic, says ADHD expert Dr. David Rabiner of Duke University.

“At this point there’s a compelling body of evidence that suggests that it’s genetics that plays the biggest role in ADHD,” he says. “Not bad parenting.” While some research has been done to determine if there are links between ADHD and environmental factors, as well as nutrition, sleep disorders, exposure to toxins and certain prenatal conditions, Rabiner says the connections have consistently been found to be weak or nonexistent.

ADHD/ADD are conditions that require a professional diagnosis and perhaps intervention. To find out more about this disorder, log on to the Attention Deficit Disorder Association’s Web site at ADD.org.


Instead, Rabiner attributes the rise in ADHD to more awareness of the condition and slightly relaxed criteria for diagnosis.

“I think it’s a gross misunderstanding of the recent study to jump to the conclusion that television watching leads to ADHD. The study doesn’t prove anything of the sort,” says Rabiner, who notes that the scale used in the study to determine if children who had watched TV later developed “attention problems” cannot be compared to the standards that a professional would use make a diagnosis.

Rabiner advises parents to limit the amount of television their children watch for a variety of reasons, but says they should make the choice independent of any worries that TV causes ADHD.

Christakis agrees, sort of. “Our study doesn’t prove a link between clinical ADHD and television viewing,” he says. “But I don’t even think that’s the most important point here. As parents, the most important thing is for us to do everything we can environmentally to encourage our children to focus as much as they are genetically endowed to.”

What's a parent to do? So should parents throw the TV out the window? Healy and Christakis offer these more moderate suggestions:

Parents should keep TV viewing to a minimum, if not eliminate it, for a child's first two years. This is also the recommendation of the American Academy of Pediatrics. “There are videos that claim they’re good for children’s minds, but there is absolutely no evidence that any program is good for young children,” says Christakis.
For children older than two, limit total screen time (TV, computers and video games) to an hour of carefully selected programming per day. Slow-paced shows are preferable to fast-paced ones.
Reduce the background noise of TV as much as possible. Researchers believe background noise interferes with a child’s ability to concentrate on a problem and decide on a reasonable behavior or train of thought.
Encourage your children to learn through their hands and bodies. “It’s better to touch and smell an apple rather than watch one on the television or computer screen,” says Healy.
Talk to your child and listen instead of allowing any screen to talk to him or her. This communication is crucial in the development of language and interpersonal skills. “If you skip over early language or shortchange it because you’re watching television so much, you may never get it back,” warns Healy."

Buffalo has no problem with self-image

Yahoo! coffeeBreak:"A South Dakota buffalo missed his own auction after spending two hours locked in a dressing room staring at himself in a mirror. The incident happened in Rapid City at Sunday's annual Black Hills Classic Buffalo Sale at the Rushmore Plaza Civic Center arena, the Rapid City Journal reported. The agitated bison jumped over a steel panel into an alleyway that led to the visitors' dressing room, Civic Center General Manager Brian Maliske said. "The door happened to be unlocked, and he pushed the door open and went in," Maliske said. When the auction crew caught up with the beast, they noticed it transfixed, staring at itself in a large mirror. To avoid disrupting the event further, it was decided to lock the buffalo in the room until the auction ended. A wrangler had little trouble coaxing the animal out afterwards, uncertain whether it was enamored with, or intimidated by staring at itself for two hours, the newspaper said. Well women always have said that the human male was vain, looking in mirrors or thinking they are standing up to another male. Just goes's to show you even the animal ones are just as bad. This was cute tho, just thinking about a big-ole Buffalo in a dressing-room! "

Home-made Health Remedies From Your Cupboard

"A friend of mine is always sending me interesting stuff! So for what it is worth, I am sharing it with everyone:

1. Drinking two glasses of Gatorade can relieve headache pain almost immediately without the unpleasant side effects caused by traditional pain relievers.
2. Did you know that Colgate toothpaste makes an excellent salve for burns.
3. Before you head to he drugstore for a high-priced inhaler filled with mysterious chemicals, try chewing on a couple of curiously strong Altoids peppermints. They'll clear up your stuffed nose. As a chronic bronchial asthmatic I rely on Fisherman’s Friends. But in a pinch the Altoids will work also.
4. Achy muscles from a bout of the flu? Mix 1 Tablespoon of horseradish in 1/2 cup of olive oil. Let the mixture sit for 30 minutes, then apply it as a massage oil, for instant relief for aching muscles.
5. Sore Throat?? Just mix 1/4 cup of vinegar with 1/4 cup of honey and take 1 Tablespoon six times a day. The vinegar kills the bacteria. It does not mention whether you swallow or gargle. But I suppose it can not hurt you. I usually use 2 tsps of salt in ½ glass of warm water. Gargle for 30 seconds 15 minutes apart for about 2 hrs. and your sore throat will be gone.
6. Cure urinary tract infections with Alka-Seltzer. Just dissolve two tablets in a glass of water and drink it at the onset of the symptoms. Alka-Seltzer begins eliminating urinary tract infections almost instantly-even though the product was never been advertised for this use.
7. Eliminate puffiness under your eyes.....All you need is a dab of preparation H, carefully rubbed into the skin, avoiding the eyes. The hemorrhoid ointment acts as a vasoconstrictor, relieving the swelling instantly.
8. Honey remedy for Skin Blemishes......Cover the blemish with a dab of honey and place a Band-Aid over it. Honey kills the bacteria, keeps the skin sterile, and speeds healing.
9. Works overnight.Listerine therapy for toenail fungus....Get rid of unsightly toenail fungus by soaking your toes in Listerine mouthwash. The powerful antiseptic leaves your toenails looking healthy again.
10. Easy eyeglass protection....To prevent the screws in eyeglasses from loosening, apply a small drop of Maybelline Crystal Clear nail polish to the threads of the screws before tightening them.
11. Coca-Cola cure for rust...Forget those expensive rust removers. Just saturate an abrasive sponge with Coca Cola and scrub the rust stain. The phosphoric acid in the coke is what gets the job done.
12. Cleaning liquid that doubles as bug killer....If menacing bees, wasps, hornets, or yellow jackets get in your home and you can't find the insecticide, try a spray of Formula 409. Insects drop to the ground instantly.
13. Smart splinter remover.....just pour a drop of Elmers Glue-all over the splinter, let dry, and peel the dried glue off the skin. The splinter sticks to the dried glue.
14. Hunt's tomato paste boil cure....Cover the boil with Hunt's tomato paste as a compress. The acids from the tomatoes soothe the pain and bring the boil to a head.
15. Balm for broken blisters.....To disinfect a broken blister, dab on a few drops of Listerine....a powerful antiseptic.
16. Heinz vinegar to heal bruises...Soak a cotton ball in white vinegar and apply it to the bruise for 1 hour. The vinegar reduces the blueness and speeds up the healing process.
17. Kills fleas instantly. Dawn dishwashing liquid does the trick. Add a few drops to your dog's bath and shampoo the animal thoroughly. Rinse well to avoid skin irritations. Good-bye fleas
18. Rainy day cure for dog odor....Next time your dog comes in from the rain, simply wipe down the animal with Bounce or any dryer sheet, instantly making your dog smell springtime fresh.
19. Eliminate ear mites....All it takes is a few drops of Wesson corn oil in your cat's ear. Massage it in, then clean with a cotton ball. Repeat daily for 3 days. The oil soothes the cat's skin, smothers the mites, and accelerates healing.
20. Vaseline cure for hairballs.....To prevent troublesome hairballs, apply a dollop of Vaseline petroleum jelly to your cat's nose. The cat will lick off the jelly, lubricating any hair in its stomach so it can pass easily through the digestive system.
21. Quaker Oats for fast pain relief....It's not for breakfast anymore! Mix 2 cups of Quaker Oats and 1 cup of water in a bowl and warm in the microwave for 1 minute, cool slightly, and apply the mixture to your hands for soothing relief from arthritis pain."

Drug Used to Seduce Men

"Men, please read this if you go to bars or clubs..Ladies make sure you stay close to this man you give this drug to, so other women don't sneak in and claim your prize..LOL:

Guys, be more alert and cautious when getting a drink offer from a girl. There is a drug called "beer" that is essentially in liquid form. The most effective varieties are being shipped in from other countries. "Beer" is now being used by female sexual predators at parties to convince their male victims to have sex with them. The shocking statistic is that this "beer" is available virtually anywhere! All girls have to do is buy a beer or two for almost any guy and simply ask the guy home for no-strings-attached sex. Men are literally rendered helpless against such attacks. Please! Forward this to every man you know... There is safety in numbers... "

Learn Latin Loving For Beginners

Beginners;"The room was full of casually dressed men and women who meandered around, batted their eyelids or stared at one another in penetrating ways. Baby steps in an ancient dance: Italians at a seduction school near Rome rub against each other, a female psychologist keeps an eye on students tackling the crucial squeezing and fondling phase.

Later, the woman explained that sidelong glances are a major come-on. "It means a woman is ready to go. It's a guaranteed night in bed," she said.
And so it went at a lesson in seduction Italian-style, offered to eager, mostly middle-aged students who gathered recently at a farmhouse south of Rome to learn the art of the pickup.

The wandering-eye session was just one of several exercises designed to teach students how to get the uomo or Donna of their dreams into bed, if not into a lasting relationship. Everyone has the equipment, the teachers advised. Just relax and bring it out.
There was a lot of loosening up. First, the crowd to writhe around the room. Then there was the leaning on one another, and even being folded into someone's arms. Then there was the "power of the glance" exercise, with wandering and winking and so on. Then couples stood in a pair of rows facing each other and one side tried to entice the other using eyes only.

A woman will not choose someone she feels she cannot control. This is a flame that is quickly extinguished, cautioned barriers fear of strangers. Fear of disease is also getting in the way, strangers don't trust strangers. Maybe this is what I need to get over my shy-ness of picking up men, then I wouldn't be worrying why I am always with-out a man in my bed on those lonely night...LOL"

PORNO Mom & Dad Stars

Ohio:" A teen was severely traumatized after discovering the stars of a downloaded porno flick were none other than his own parents. Timmy-17, (name withheld) recalls the moment that scarred him for life. I was like five minutes into this porno called Horny House Wives 4, when I thought to myself, Hey, that couch looks exactly like the one I'm sitting on? Oh crap, it is! I remember the horror overcoming me when I realized the woman was my mother, and the guy my father. I instantly backed up and vomited. Timmy's parents, believe that their son needs to grow up and get over it. Tim's mother and I are completely comfortable with our sexuality. While his family seems to be in turmoil, Timmy stated that future family gatherings will probably be a little uncomfortable for a long while.Laughed my butt off when I read this, well guess its a sure way to turn your kids off on looking a Porno!!"

Healing

" Well Things are getting better for me in my own healing time with by break-up from my long time partner of 4-years, don't get me wrong its hard and I miss him really bad at times.

But this was the right thing to do for me I feel, I now know it was time to move on even if it hurts as we both wanted different things from the relationship. I now know that I will someday find someone who wants to spend his life with me and try really hard to make things work with me as I will with him, but till then I will learn to heal and make myself a better person so that when (Mr Nice Dating Man) comes along I will be ready to move on with someone else.

I have no clue who he may be but I now know better in what I do and don't want in a partner to share my time with. I have made a cross road today...It has been- 27 days since I last held him in my arms and felt the want of a man, and 22-days since I have last spoke with him, and we broke-up. This is the longest we have stayed apart, I had asked him to let me move on and he has been good about letting me lick my wounds and heal I feel. Not sure if he has moved on or not is why he don't contact me, others tell me he has and more then likely had before we ever did break-up had another women scoped out to date if we broke-up, or has replaced you as he also has moved on like you asked him to is what they said. Which I have to accept because I told him I was setting him free to be with someone that made him happy, as I didn't feel we were doing that to each other anymore.

A lot of pain and hurt trasnspired during this time, Yes I sometimes think we could of worked it out. But I felt I would lose more of myself if I kept giving and I had to stop, because it was hurting to much for me to try and please him. I just felt I never did the right thing to, because he was always upset with me a lot of the time if I expressed how I felt on things that he didn't agree on and we were never able to stop the merry-go-round of the same problems they just kept coming back, and we couldn't come to a understanding on these problems and we both could change them to make the other happy.

So I feel I did the right thing as I don't feel he really wanted to be with me anymore, by the way he was acting over things he felt always needed to be changed within my life to make us as a couple better, and I was just tired wore down from trying to change to keep him so he would be happy and not want to leave me. I came to think very little of myself in order to keep him, this is not a healthy thing to do know that I have been able to look back, I'm a bit sad because I cared very deeply for this man and loved him with my whole heart and wanted to sleep by him the rest of my life. But it was wrong of me to want someone more then they wanted me I'm learning more about myself these last few weeks, I was always someone who tried hard thru-out my 4-years with him to keep him, and guess I will never know if he stayed with me as long as he did because he loved me? Or that he just learned to love me because I wanted him so bad and he was settling for me because I wanted to please him so much. Don't really matter anymore, But I have learned something from my time with him.

You can't make someone be who they are not, and I need to look at things with other men in the next few months or years that I will date to take one day at a time and stand up for who I am and not change me for anyone. No matter how bad I want him, because he needs to love me for me and all my crazy moods. And everything and everyone that comes with my life, because that is who I am...A Loving,giving kind person who should demand that others treat her the same way and not accept any less from anyone ever.....SO Today is my crossroad in to my new life...ONE!! Step at a time, no more bitterness and tears, towards my x-mate..I know I am worth knowing, just need to find the right man who Loves me for me and nothing less....I know he is out there, just waiting for me to walk into his life!!

Charming Men Woman Shouldn't Date

(1) If he has one to many times been married, or is older then (30-plus) and never been married? Why? Multiple previous, or off and on dating with many women who always treated him bad(he says) these are BIG red flags!! Ladies he has some problems or these other women wouldn't keep leaving him. He bravely tells you they all treated him bad one way or another, he was the understanding/walked on mate.. Always. He never takes any blame for the break-ups, but that he just picked bad women to date. I promise, your name will someday be added to his list of women who did him wrong!! NEVER, think you are different from those other women in his past when he has more then one:(she treated me bad relationship)....You're not...Careful he'll suck the life out of you fast too!

(2) If you wonder how he affords the expensive wines, the five-star restaurants and the trips to Europe on the salary that someone in his line of work earns -- the answer is he can't afford it, he's doing it to hook you in. To make you think he is a sweet charming man who finally found the women of his dreams, he's living off the plan of bagging you to help feed him or help him pay off these debts down the road hoping you'll feel sorry for him...Don't!

(3) If he wants to buy a house, or maybe a newer car while your dating him watch-out if he starts talking about you both moving in together or getting married, but he needs his parents or you to co-sign for him. Run for the nearest exit. His credit is bad, from trying to impress women to stay with him he's a user!

(4) Brags that he "Went to" a college and "graduated from " a college to make himself look good. What a shame that he thinks you don't know that and he needs to keep throwing it in your face, tells you what a great find his is for any women, unless you were only dating him because he went to collage. Good-luck, this don't make him a good man by no means!

(5) If he complains about his job and co-workers (don't have a lot of close friends) at least once a week if not more, always feeling he could do better (he'll even tell you he likes his job most of the time.) But he's just looking for the better one to come along someday,(like his women) don't count on having his income in your budget.(Unless he is only trying to impress you then this is only tempory for show), because he will always tell you how poor he is even if he has tons of money. He claims he makes good money till its time to prove it, then he's suddenly broke or has a bill that needs payed. This will never change!

(6) Are you much older than he is? Does he try to control your every move, claims its because he loves you? Pick fights with you over dumb things that aren't worth even fighting over, but he can't let go of them its part of his control to wear you down. (He likes the older ones because he can no longer fool the younger, wiser ladies, truth.) Does he tell you that your special different then those younger women, says you treat him better is why he wants to be with you. He's with you because he thinks you can't get anyone better, and the women his age won't put up with his head-games. ...Don't sell yourself short!!

(7) Have you ever wondered why nothing is his fault? The: his break-ups, his past dating-mishaps,divorces, relationships,x-girlfriends,job's,money-problems,room-mates,un-paid-bills,friendships,bankruptcies? Think again. Someday you'll be on that list, of people who did him wrong too!

(8) Does he tell you that his Parent's advises him to not make any expensive purchases- on credit, at this time that he can't afford (like an Engagement-Ring, or Marriage), on the basis that they're trying to help him get out of debit right now? Don't believe every- thing you hear, he's being polite....He don't want to hurt you and tell you the truth, he's got no balls because they are in his mamma's purse!!

We all know that this man is attractive and charming we've all dated someone with one or more of the statements above, and the truth is he has read and learned everything he could, and still is. On what women want to get them to go out with him, but please take off the blinders. Because he won't be willing to want walk down the wedding-aisle with you its all a game to him because he is trying to hide the self-centered troll he really is, unless you end up with his child or trap him, you may get lucky and win him. (But ask yourself do you really want to end up with someone like him the rest of your life)... Be grateful for these reminders that before making a lifelong commitment, it's imperative to know well with whom one is having the pleasure."

The Dangers Of Pornography With Couples

"relationship's@today.org : "Pornography is rampant in the world we live in especially because of the internet. Without leaving home, a person is just a few clicks away from the raunchiest and most explicit sexual information in the world. Even though a majority of pornography is viewed by men, an increasing number of women are being entertained by it and even becoming addicted to it.
The problems with pornography are vast. First of all, for men, pornography changes the way they view women in a negative manner. Research has proven that just two sessions of one hour exposures of R rated sexual entertainment changes men's attitudes toward women. They begin to objectify women and no longer see them as individually unique or valuable. The reason is because of the demeaning manner in which women and sex are portrayed. Can you imagine what happens to a man's view of his female-partner after watching X X X porn?
The second problem with any form of pornography is that it introduces another person into a couple's sex life. Simply looking at another person in a longing and lustful manner is equal to adultery. Inevitably, we begin to compare our partner's body and sexual performance to the person or people in the pornography we are viewing. Also, we are making a very damaging statement to our partner that they simply aren't enough for us. Of course, when stimulated by pornography, no number of women or men could ever satisfy us. It is an insatiable appetite.
The third problem with pornography is escalation. The same stimulation that once satisfied no longer satisfies and so the porn must become more explicit and raunchy, until it takes over a person's life and destroys you both as a couple. I've heard people say that they used porn to spice up their sex lives with their partner. Porn will spice up your sex life like hydrochloric acid will spice up your food. Porn always destroys lives and robs you of the sacred intimacy and sexual fulfillment you could have had, sooner or later someone get hurt and before long you both no longer are a couple because of trust issues. Even if neither one of you has ever cheated on the other with a real human-body, it has only been mental image talk thru pornography you viewed while together
Let me offer several answers for those of you being affected by pornography. The first steps toward freedom are repentance and accountability. If you are viewing porn, find a good friend you can confide in and become accountable to. In fact, many communities are offering help for those with sexual addictions. Don't let pornography ruin your life and possibly help you to lose the person to whom you care about deeply about get help.
Rarely is a person's addiction to pornography a sexual issue. In most cases, men are using pornography to fill an emotional void or to deal with pain. Even though it can't be tolerated, understanding the reason behind it can help."

Red Flags In Dating Beware!!

" Good-Morning, I thought I would ad this bit of my own comments to the post below before you read it. Also posting it to help me REMEMBER, as I just came out of a 4-year relationship that was to end in a wedding ring in a few months and it ended about 3-weeks ago when I finally figured out he didn't have any plans of marriage, because I had to many problems he said, not his problems he brought to the table just mine, so I walked away and set him free.Nothing to show for the time I spent with this man but a broken heart a bit of bitterness, but lot wiser. So..This is what I seem to have done wrong in my past dating with men over my life time. I was looking for love in all the wrong places or should I say, I'm finding out I was looking at the wrong men to give me love and respect and their time. What I got from the male-dating partners I dated is below, and what I did because I didn't respect myself enough to demand more from them in the first place!!

Things I feel we as women do wrong, when dating men, to stop from being alone:


Give up our bodies for sexual pleasures to soon: Because we think this man cares about us, or because we want to be close to someone(male) because we are just plain horny and need some release. If you do this make sure he pleases you before he does himself, and don't be afraid to tell him or use your hand to show him what makes you hot, if this makes him mad or turns him off then...Dump him FAST, because it's a two way street he'd do it to you if you didn't make his body beg for more. And don't feel bad, be glad you found out what he was like. Before you dated him a-while, or even married him consider this a blessing not a bad thing!!
Sex-Goddess: Yes we all want our mate to think we are the best sex-partner they ever had but, don't give it up to fast. Don't be to free with your loving, it's okay to give him a sample now and then, but...Hold on to your bodies special gift till he slips a RING!! On your finger. Because it seems today, once men have had a taste of the honey pot, they are on to the next one... Like a busy bee. Or if they do stick around, don't be so free to give it away ladies make them earn it just like they do us on certain things. They want us to think they are something special and they picked us to date them...Well turn that around and make them want you instead, enough to be the last women they will ever want to date. Make them earn, your time and the honey from your love-pot with a wedding ring...Or at least a few nice trinkets, to carry your over from the break-up in case it don't work with them. And most of all don't ever feel like if you with-hold sex he'll leave you is why your giving it up, because if he does leave you for that reason...Then that was all he was after in the first place, deal with it and learn from it!
Cheap-Dates: What I mean by this is, he is always at your house watching TV on the couch or your cooking your food you bought to make him dinner. Oh... It's okay once in awhile if that is what you want to do, maybe once every few months, save this stuff for when you married and settle down for the rest of your life with this man, no matter what even if you are trying to prove to him you are a good cook to win his heart. He will say things like I like a simply women, old fashion or I'm looking for someone like dear old mom...DROP- HIM. Send him packing back to mom if that is what he is looking for, because I promise you he will let go of his money in the cob-web wallet for the next women, if the only time she will see him is if they go out on a real date that means going out in public. Don't let him give you the lines a lot of men use on us...I've got a lot of bills-(So do we) or I'm looking for a women that likes to just spend time with me cuddling and getting to know me, don't buy that you can cuddle in public as well as on your couch at home, and have an outing too. Or the best one, your the type of women I have been looking for, what he is really saying is: (I can get everything from you for nothing in return but my time). This is a selfish man, if you allow it then you get what you ask for..A lot of dates in front of the TV and a rolling in the bed if he wants to make you feel like you earned it. If we allow this type of behavior then we have no one to blame but our self. Don't get me wrong, not all men have money. And not all poor men are bad for us to date. What I'm saying is rich or poor....He will find the money to take you out on a date/outing what-ever, if you tell him this is what you expect from him in order to spend time with him. I promise you, other women do it all the time...Why should you expect any less for yourself. If he really likes you he will find ways to court you in public and not behind closed doors.

Marriage verses living together: To many couples today live together for years and never get married, this is fine if you don't want to marry this person, but if you do don't sell yourself short. If you want marriage from this man then stick to your guns and don't settle for less, move the wedding date up if it is so imporant for you two to live under one roof, if your sure that he is the one for you. But don't fall for these lines from him: I want to see how we work together before we tie the knot. Or I don't want to get married till I can buy you a proper ring, or have a nice wedding, or save money to buy a nicer home or car, or I want to pay off some bills before I get married. Accept it he's not looking for a wife...He's looking for a Room-mate, THAT COOKS AND CLEANS AND GIVES HIM FREE SEX, and pays half of the bills so he has more money. He's still looking for MRS. RIGHT, and you just allowed him to say your not her and went along with it your worth more then what he is willing to offer, be smart run fast!

Gifts/Holidays: This one I think hurts the most of all, we make excuse why they don't remember to give us a gift on holidays or birthdays when we always remember them. They say things like we should tell them these dates, because they have a lot on their minds and can't remember dates we need to let them know those things are important to us. We shouldn't have too! We buy them things, then sometimes they try to make up for it by giving you a late gift or take you out for dinner to make it right...It still hurts and what's worst is we let them get away with it, because we like them. Well Maybe in the beginning this is fine because they don't know you that well, but after 6-months they should know what's proper in the gift dept.

Family/Friends/co-workers: This one I know a lot of people say you shouldn't do till you know if you like this person, I agree. But if your still dating this person after a few months and only each other, I feel you should expect him take you to meet these people in his life, and you do the same. At least half of the time he spends with these people if not more, if your a couple then others should know that too. Don't be a fool and let him tell you that he don't want you to get to know these people for what ever reason, tell him you want to be the judge, if he don't follow thru and stands firm, you need to ask why? And if he tells you that these people don't like you is why he don't take you with him to see these people, you need to let him know they don't know you, how can they know if they like you as a person or not? He needs to give you and them a chance to get to know each other. Unless he is really telling them, that you and him aren't really dating is why he don't want you to meet them and then the truth will come out if they met you. This you need to find it out in the beginning not years down the road, or take his word for it. If he really likes you then he would want others to see how happy you make him. Don't be a fool and let him keep you away from these people, you need to be asking him and yourself why you are allowing him to treat you this way if you are his girl-friend?

During a heated dis-agreement: He throws his x-girlfriends or your past lovers or kids or friends in your face to put you down. Or the one where he tells you he is such a great man that women are always hitting on him, so you should feel like he is the best thing that walked into your life this:(is what he wants you to believe) This is wrong he shouldn't do this its mean and cruel, if this does happen he needs to know its not right and to stop it and you shouldn't allow it after one time of it happening, if it happens a lot then move fast to start looking for a better men out there who will treat you the way you want to be treated.

I guess what I am saying is if we as women don't expect more out of a dating partner for us, then we get what we ask for and we have no one to blame but our-selves. But if we feel we are worth more then what our past male-dating partners give us then we need be up front with what we want, and stand by it even if we end up alone or they dump us..We expect to be happy as person, but the happiness has to come from with in you, and what you allow others to do or treat you. Because we all need to learn to give to ourselves more to be happy with where your going in life, and if you end up alone for a time..Well, least no man is the blame for it."